The Stand Up

Situation
Adam is handsome, fun, intelligent and charismatic. He met Kara on a blind date set up by their mutual friend, and they spend a couple hours together just talking. They seem to have a lot of the same interests, and Kara was pretty and had a sense of humor that Adam liked. At the end of the date Adam walked Kara to the door and told her he had a great time-he asked if she would like to do something with him again and got her number, promising to call sometime that week.
Kara was so excited! Not only was Adam one of maybe two good blind dates she had ever been on, but he wanted to see her again, which means he must have had a good time too. However, an entire week passed without a word from him, so Kara figures its time to look elsewhere. Just as she decided to move on, guess who she runs into? None other than the elusive Adam! He apologized for not calling her ( he was swamped with his classes, and seeing as Kara was too, its a pretty legitimate excuse), but he says that he has an important event coming up for an organization he is a part of and invites her to come with him if she would like. He tells her he will call to finalize plans, and Kara walks away feeling pretty good about the whole situation...maybe she worried too much too soon...
Oh think again little Kara! the day of the date arrived and she still had heard no word from Adam, but she got ready anyhow, because he did tell her the time the event started, so maybe he didn't think the call was necessary after all. Again she was wrong, the time came and went and Kara was stood up before she knew it for the first time in her life.
A few days passed after the stand up, and Kara still had no word-so she decided to contact him the only way she could-facebook (he had her number, but she didn't have his) to see if he had an explanation for himself-and BOY did he have one! He said he was expecting to see her at the event, but apparently something must have come up for her, he was sorry she couldn't make it....Kara was now confused, did he really ask her out? Of course he did! But he now was trying to blame the whole situation on her- Kara spent the next couple of days trying to fathom Adam's reasoning behind the whole situation, a week later she finds that he had already started to date someone else, so she deleted him from her life and moved on.

Analysis
Oh where to begin! First off, after their first blind date, Adam had a really easy out-he didn't have her number and she didn't have his, he could have easily walked away from the situation and Kara would have got the message. However, instead he decided to get Kara's number and just not call her instead-very gentleman like. Secondly, Men need to really watch the way they word things when talking to a woman, When Adam and Kara saw each other a week after he said he would call, he asked Kara out...or so she thought. To refresh your memory, he apologized for not calling, and then followed up with a "but if you would like to come with me to this other event..." and at the end of the conversation added an "I'll call you." If Adam was just inviting Kara to come to the event on her own he should have made that more clear-i.e. "hey a bunch of us are going to this event, you should drop by and check it out." He also certainly would not have had to call her in a situation like that. Thirdly, a mere two weeks after their first date, Adam already had a new girlfriend-this is just preposterous! Adam must have known this girl and liked this girl at the time of the blind date, so why even bother trying to get to know a new girl...especially if he was just going to mess with her head while he finalized things with his girlfriend.
In short (or maybe not so short), men normally are the ones asking women out, if you are not interested, don't do it...it really is that simple. Instead of asking her out, and standing her up when you feel like she isn't the one for you, take that extra second to really think about whether she is worth it to you. We (women in general) are going to be just fine with out that date, in fact you are saving us the trouble of spending 2 hours getting ready for something that isn't actually going to happen-and even if you may not think we are worth it, there are plenty of others out there who do-so get out of the way and give Mr. Right the chance to take his girl on DATE!